Feminine Sons: Daughters to the Rescue

It takes strong men to defend a nation, especially in times of war. Preparing for war is more than stockpiling weapons; it includes raising boys to be boys.

We need to learn from our friends in the Muslim world; they train their boys to be brave, militant. I’m not talking about Muslim extremists or Islamic terrorists; I’m speaking of regular Muslims. They still believe that boys should be strong, brave, warlike, even war-ready.

On the other hand, some Western societies seem to be doing everything to tame their sons, so they can be “sensitive” like little girls. Need I mention that some of the boys are being “groomed” to become the wives of other men in same-sex marriages? (I know, some will call me homophobic.)

We will have to choose between our survival and being political correct.

The scary truth is, if America were to be dragged into another prolonged truly global war, like World War I and World War II, our population may no longer be able to stomach the sheer force it might require to win such a war. Why not? Because so many American men have become feminized, that’s why. The society as a whole can hardly stand seeing war casualties in the tens of thousands. We’ve seen the evidence from the Iraq war. Americans grew very nervous as the body count climbed, and CNN liked to tally the body bags. Millions of Americans began to call for an end to the Iraq War.

In another global war, with various nations lined up on either side, the camp that has the guts to stomach a higher number of war-dead will be favored to win such a war. And the side whose citizens cringe from the site of bombings, blood and deformed bodies may well become conquered territory.

Unless, Americans reverse how we bring up our boys, I’m afraid we may be digging our own graves by turning our sons into daughters. If we continue down the road of feminizing our sons, our daughters will have no brothers strong enough, tough enough to take up for them, to fight for them, to defend them. Or perhaps luck may have it that while we tame our boys into girls, we may also succeed in turning our girls into what we used to call boys.

There is some of that going on too ~ I mean making boys out of girls. The other day, on national TV, a mother was shown pleading for her daughter who wants to play football with the boys. That little girl sounded so confident, she could easily pass for a brave, little boy. This, in a culture, where some boys are taking the tryout to become cheerleaders! Could it be that it will take our daughters, sisters, and mothers to save us, after all? It’s like the return of Joan of Arc. Hey, I suppose girly men won’t mind being rescued by manly women.

Who is a Genesis Man?

Genesis. It's the name of the first book of the #1 best seller of all time: the Bible.

Genesis. Do you notice the word "gene" in there? And from that word, we build words like "generate", "generator", "generation", "genetic", "regeneration", and of course "genesis".

If you care to know, the dictionary defines "gene" as "the basic physical unit of heredity; a linear sequence of nucleotides along a segment of DNA that provides the coded instructions for synthesis of RNA, which, when translated into protein, leads to the expression of hereditary character." Wow! What a mouthful!

In plain speech, that mumble jumble says that a gene is the code of life that we received from our parents before we were born. Our genes are our unbroken link to our ancestors.

Genes are to life what the alphabet is to language. In the English language, paragraphs come from sentences. Sentences come from words. And words come from letters. That says the letter is the origin or source of a paragraph, of a sentence, and of language.

And guess what "genesis" means: origin, beginning.

The "Genesis Man" is therefore the original man. The Genesis Man is the man who so cares to discover or rediscover himself that he will go back to the beginning to find what he lost and where he lost it, to find himself as he was made and meant to be. The Genesis Man realizes something is missing; he instinctively knows that society has stolen something valuable from him. The Genesis Man longs for the Creator's blueprint and design for his life as a male.

Oh, let's define that simple word "man". It comes from the Hebrew word "adamah", and it means "clay" or "dust".

This brings us to two important truths about the Genesis Man. On one hand, he is as special as the Creator's original (gene). On the other hand, he is as fragile as clay and as limited as dust. Thus, the Genesis Man can only reach his full potential to the extent that he is connected to the Divine, to his Designer, to his Creator and Maker.

Briefly put, the Genesis Man is a man of the God of Genesis. He is a man who refuses to stop at nothing less than a man-God connection, for in that link is found his manhood, his greatness. The Genesis Man is a man on a journey, on an expedition to find true manhood in all of its glory and splendor, as it was in the beginning, back in Genesis.

Man's Identity Before Man's Authority

“I’m a man. Respect me.” That seems to be a man's sigh, cry or shout.

There are few exceptions to the rule: A man is made for respect (as a woman is built for affection). Nothing offends and insults the average man like disrespect from a youth, from a woman or from another man. Every man wants respect.

A guy wants respects from peers, observers and total strangers, whether that man is at home, at school, on the battlefield, in a prison cell, in a group, in a gang, or in the workplace.

Often men will do anything to impose their authority to get the respect they think they must get at all costs. Is it any wonder that it was the male who discovered or invented the art of war? What is warfare but man’s attempt and effort to control his fellow man and thereby parade his power and prowess in order to win? During the era of empires and kingdoms, men climbed mountains, braved valleys, endured deserts and set sail across seas and oceans to attack and conquer foreign lands. Those war campaigns might have happened in the name of needed resources, slaves or resources, but to the male warriors the grand plunder of war was the grand prize of respect from the conquered.

On a much smaller scale, two boys fist fight to win respect from each other, as well as from other boys and girls who watch the fight or hear of its outcome. Respect is why boys bully, join gangs, wield guns, engage in certain risky behavior or even play sports.

Since we men need and crave respect to count our lives meaningful and worthwhile, one may think guys would be experts at knowing exactly how to get respect without issuing threats, blowing air, or inflicting harm. But the truth is few men have the foggiest idea about how to gain respect without anger, threat or force. A man may pursue respect by way of position, title, appearance (looks), or performance. Usually, that’s an empty chase.

For much of my adult life, I wanted to find the secret to attracting respect from others without much sweat, without directly asking for their respect. I realized that without respect, hardly anyone would take the time to listen to what I have to, or take me seriously enough to follow my advice, coaching, teaching or lead. After several years of coming up empty, I think I have stumbled upon the golden key that opens the mansion of respect. Here it is: authority. Specifically, a show of authority. Only authority figures get respect.

Underneath every man’s desire or demand for respect is the issue of authority. No man is respected until he is first regarded as an authority figure. Respect then is a fruit of authority, and authority is the root of respect.

The question for every respect-hungry man should be: How do I become an authority figure? The answer is: find your identity. Once you discover who you are, and you function as the person you are, you will “grow” authority and thereby gain respect.

“Who am I?” That’s the sixty-four million dollar question that each and every man needs to answer. The obvious answer is, “I’m a man.” But that’s obviously not enough. The generic answer is, “I am a leader.” But that’s only the beginning. Leader of what? Leader in what? What kind of leader. A man must find at least one leadership role. When others see you as a leader, they will begin to treat you as an authority figure. When that happens, you won’t need to starve or beg for respect anymore. Respect will hunt you down and overtake you.

Here is man’s path to fulfillment in its most simplistic form: Identity => Leadership => Authority => Respect.